09-21-03,My husband's ex was a flaming weirdo and a vicious liar and they were married all together for 8 years. Had 2 kids. Both have monumental problems. Tom shared in some of tht blame..
She died last week of brain cancer .
I disliked that woman intensely - but I
would not wish that kind of death on anyone.
I actually got jealous when I
realized she beat me to Tom again.
She thought she was entitled to some of his ashes. Mind you -she had 2 other husbands and many shack-ups after him.
She made his life hell for many years.
And mine too.
He had expressed to me that he wanted his ashes spread in a body of water. I had told them all of those wishes.
When it got time for their memorial in Washington state- some of them started to talk about divvying up the ashes and not spreading them all.
Even though I had chosen to hand him over to them in this beautiful cherry wood oval box - I got mad about this although I never expressed it to Julie in our e-mails.
My sister-in-law Debbie told me this months later. The stepkids contributed nothing to either memorial and had nothing but complaints. At 29 and 31 , they aren't kids anymore. She didn't want to upset me right away. Chuck & Debbie are really nice people.Chuck was Tom's favorite brother - he never ever hada cross word about him in all the 21 years I knew him.He was also so visbly moved during the tragedy and still now. He's quite- too quite .
